Relationships

 

'Can two people walk together without agreeing on the direction?'

Having the right relationships will help you to soar in life; they're like the wind beneath your wings. And the wrong relationships will drag you down, like a ball and chain around your feet. To know which relationships are good for you and which are not, here are three guidelines

 3 Main Guidelines

(1)            When a relationship is not working, acknowledge it. Sometimes you must cut your losses. The old saying goes, 'When you're in a hole, stop digging!' Accept the fact that sometimes your efforts are not enough and that you can't help everyone. Releasing someone doesn't mean they will never get better; it just means that God is more qualified to help them than you are.

 

(2)            There is a difference between helping someone and carrying them. This is particularly so when you're dealing with a person who always turns to you for help and tries to make you feel guilty when you're 'not there' for them. Don't try to be someone's God. Your constant help may actually be a hindrance - you have become a crutch and an enabler. Step back and let them learn to walk on their own.

 

(3) Don't allow your fear of criticism to restrain your common sense. Here is a fact of life that you must learn to live with: not everyone will be pleased with you! The truth can hurt and often alienate, but it's still the truth. There are times when you must 'tell it like it is' and accept the consequences and disapproval. The only way to avoid criticism is to always say what everyone desires to hear, which is equal to living a lie in a relationship.

HAVE THIS IN MIND

'He who walks with wise men will be wise.'

Not everyone who starts out with you is capable of going where God wants to take you. Sometimes they don't have the emotional capacity required. Other times their vision differs from yours.

So how can you know when it's time to exit a relationship? Avoid relationships that leave you depleted. This calls for establishing clear boundaries for the relationship up front. You don't have time to spend your life straightening out misunderstandings, hurt feelings and injured egos. How far are you willing to go? How much are you inclined to invest? When you overspend your budget, you go broke. Bankrupting yourself emotionally and physically to make someone else feel needed might sound noble, but it's not. Emotionally and physically bankrupt people end up with everything from nervous breakdowns to extramarital affairs. And even when they don't, they fail to reach their God-given destination in life because they're dragging too much weight.

When you feel a relationship is not working, pause and take a look. View the situation objectively instead of emotionally, examining all the facets of it. Sometimes certain aspects of a relationship should be terminated, and other areas maintained. It's possible to have relationships that work in one area but not in another. Compartmentalizing will save many important relationships because it requires you to see them in sections. It's possible to remove a section and still have a lot left to enjoy. Yes, it takes work and communication, but it is often worth it. There may be common interests that need to be maintained, while others need to be invalidated before all is lost.

NEVER FORGET

'Don't participate in the things these people do.'

Letting go of a person doesn't mean you no longer love them; it just means the relationship is not right for you.

 

HOW SHOULD YOU HANDLE LETTING GO

(1)            A gradual separation is sometimes the best solution. There are relationships you need to get out of for your own good. But because you have a cord to cut doesn't mean that it should be ripped. Dissolving a relationship is stressful, so try to end it graciously. If the cord that binds you is constant phone calls, emails and visits, that's a good place to start.

 (2) Don't keep going back. Some of us are just so 'nice' that we can't end the relationship and move forward. We keep going back, second-guessing ourselves and re-evaluating our decision. Make it one time, make it right and make it decisive. Often people will come back to entice you by suggesting you were wrong the first time. That's why you must resolve any doubt before you make the decision in the first place.

If you find yourself in a pattern of going back to old, unhealthy relationships, you may be drinking from the wrong well. You may be trying to fill an emptiness in your heart that only God can fill. When Jesus met the woman at the well, she had been through five failed marriages and was living with man number six. He told her:

'Whoever drinks of this water will thirst again, but whoever drinks of the water that I shall give him will never thirst. But the water that I shall give him will become in him a fountain of water springing up into everlasting life'

3basic details that can help you shape a solid built, happy, and long-lasting relationship.

1) Respect

2) Trust

3) Care

Together, they are an expression of love and maturity. Building a harmonious and loving relationship is a fruit of hard work. Always start from the basics. A house doesn't begin with building a roof. First, you have to create a strong foundation.

Respect is a strong foundation for your relationship. Respect is shown when you are ready to perceive as a person truly is. Respect the fact that your partner has hobbies, interests, that are different from yours. Allow your chosen one to express themselves as desired. Do not keep both of you in suspense.

Often, when people are together, they experience internal overload hence they wish to be alone for a short time. In many relationships, there is no clear awareness of their space. You don't feel your boundaries. Respect maintains space and the personal boundaries of the other.

Trust is also one of the basic principles of relationships. How to build trust in a relationship? If you feel that your chosen one is the person you would like to spend your entire life with, then my advice is simple. Arrange an evening of revelations, and in a pleasant, romantic atmosphere, tell your partner everything about yourself. Thus, you seem to remove all protection from yourself and remain "naked" in front of your chosen one. And if, after all that that was shared, the partner stayed with you, then you took the right choice.

What are the advantages of trusting? Your chosen one becomes also your friend. They can tell you anything. You can discuss any problem or situation and therefore find a solution or compromise.

Friendship and communication will always strengthen your relationship. If you stay together, you’ll always have something to talk about and you will never lose interest in each other. At the same time, you will learn more and more about the world around you and the most important thing is that now in this world you always have a person who you can trust and who will understand you.

Love reveals a person, and care inspires a person to return the love. Building strong relationships is a daily task that can be compared to work. When you go to work, you are prepared for it. Your work is important to you and you are collected, ironed and you smell nice. You are afraid to be late for work, to do something wrong, and that you will be deprived of your salary. There is a dress code at work, rules, and bosses. But in a relationship, everything is the same, you show yourself every day and the only boss who evaluates you is your chosen one. If you don't take care of yourself, don't spend enough time with your partner, don't say compliments, you don't care, and thus show your indifference.

Caring is a manifestation of love, attention, and affirmation of the importance of this person in your life. Remember that many people in our aggressive world were deprived of love and care in childhood. Therefore, each of us needs care, love, and all the manifestations of these.

If your relationship is developed with respect, trust, and care, then you will have the highest chance to create a strong and happy relationship

Bear all this keys in mind then you will be serving yourself from heartbreak.

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