SEX IN A RELATIONSHIP

 

 

Deception is to think that a man who loves you won't want to touch you. You hear Christian ladies say "if he loves you, he won't even think of having sex with you as a Christian." The truth is, irrespective of a man's status or religious inclinations, once he develops interest in you, the subject of wanting you is already in the wings, even though it may lie dormant."

A man who loves you will definitely want to have sex with you! In fact, the deeper and more intense the love is, the more he wants to consummate his love for you quickly. It is both a natural and a supernatural order, once the mind is there, the body naturally follows.

The difference however between the carnal and spiritual man is that, while they both feel and want the same thing, the spiritual man has control over his mind and body and as such won't want to defy or defile you. The natural man has no such control measures and is liable to follow the direction of his erection.

 

So if you have been in that relationship for a while and you are both keeping yourselves, don't assume that he is so spiritual that he can't touch you and won't touch you.

The bottom line is this: don't be gullible to the extent that you believe nothing would happen, even if he can speak in tongues from here to the pacific. And watch out for signs- of absolute self-control and respect for you in the area of sex. I am not talking about you affirming this by saying he has never had an erection near you, in this case you even have to be sure he is not suffering from erectile dysfunction. In fact, ask him to go and do a test if your church doesn't normally request for it. Is it as serious as that? Yeah, it is very serious. Don't base your findings on the absence of erection, let it be firmly assured by the conditioning of his heart.

Let’s look at sex in a relationship before marriage.

Is sex before marriage good or bad? I will say it depends on you, what you want and your faith or where you met that person you are getting into a relationship with. If meet a person in church and the person is a serious Christian that sees sex in a relationship as fornication, believe me the person will not allow sex until marriage and you have to wait until after marriage. If you meet a person in a club, you should know that the person won’t mind sex before marriage because that person won’t even before thinking of marriage until things change or both fall in love and take the relationship to the next level. If you meet a person, let say in a shopping mall. You won’t know the person’s mind until you talk or start dating. Some people don’t mind at all about sex on the first or even in a relationship. Some people believe sex in a relationship create connection between them so they don’t mind at all while some people feels sex on the first date or relationship can cause delay in marriage because what will the person be hoping for again.

I don’t see sex in a relationship as anything bad or wrong. All will say is that do what you really want and that will be good for both of you because both of you needs to be on the same page in a relationship.

 Sex generally improves relationships, but how important it is depends on the individual couple. Many research studies have demonstrated a strong link between a good sex life and a happy overall relationship: Sexual satisfaction contributes to relationship satisfaction. For many, sex is a very important act between two committed people. And just like most women, men find sexual intimacy to be most satisfying within a committed relationship. One reason is that long-term partners know how to please one another better than strangers do.

The most important thing is that do not base your relationship only on sex, all you need for your relationship to survive and last long is that you should both love each other, respect each other feelings, trust each other and always put each other first and don’t judge every wrong

Make a decision that will favour both of you to strengthen your relationship.