JEALOUSY

 

 A feeling of unhappiness and anger caused by a belief that a loved one might be unfaithful. A feeling of unhappiness caused by wanting what someone else has. Jealousy is the opposite of trust. Trust can believe anything but jealousy always have doubt and trust issue.  Jealousy can come from feelings of low self-esteem or lack of confidence. And when someone is unhappy about themselves, feels anxious and insecure, this can lead to feelings of jealousy and being out of controls. Husband who dislikes other men looking at his wife. Resentfully suspicious of a rival or a rival's influence is jealousy of her talking t other men without having the thought that she can be friends with anyone as long as you trust her but jealously will make you feel that she is having an affair with every man you see around her. Also wife that complain and wanting to know the husband every move is jealousy of the fact that the husband might be with other woman and if she see a woman that is more beautiful or richer than her around the husband she get jealousy and start watching every move of the husband, checking his phone all the time and asking a lot of insecure questions at all times. Why ask questions of the men around your wife or the women around your husband if you trust him or her.

 

IS JEALOUSY A GOOD THING IN MARRIAGE OR RELATIONSHIP?

 Jealousy can never be good in any situation because it an emotional feeling of being in secure around the person you are jealous of. Jealousy makes you do thing that you don’t need sometimes. If you are jealous of a college in the office maybe the person is doing things that people are praising him or her, you will never see good in what that person does and sometimes you might be doing thing to destroy the things that person do or does and you will do everything in your power to bring that person down or put the person to shame and sometime if you cannot stop that person progress you can even kill the person and even in your relationship jealousy can make you kill your partner because you will feel in secure and you will doing evil things out of jealously.  In my opinion jealously can never be good.

 

 IS JEALOUSY INSECURE?

Yes!!! a big yes to that. Jealousy is feeling insecure to a person you are jealous of . Jealousy is an often overwhelming feeling of insecurity about a potential loss or inequity in distribution of resources. The term is also used to describe a feeling associated with being possessive of another person, such as a partner or friend. Unhealthy jealous behavior happens when we indulge that feeling and act impulsively from a place of suspicion and insecurity. When insecurity in our relationships run rampant, jealousy can rapidly grow into paranoia and obsession and threaten to destroy the very relationship we're most afraid to lose. Research has identified many root causes of extreme jealousy, including low self-esteem, high neuroticism, and feeling possessive of others, particularly romantic partners. Fear of abandonment is also a key motivator.

Sometimes feeling a twinge of jealousy is a sign there's something you need to work on in a relationship or some aspect of that relationship isn't going how you want it to be going. But, unchecked, consuming jealousy can be toxic and destroy relationships.

JEALOUSY CAN BE TOXIC

Jealousy is toxic. ... If jealousy is a problem in your relationship, not only do you risk your happiness, but you risk your safety. That's because it's really hard to tell when jealousy is just unhealthy, or when it's a red flag for dangerous behaviors, like control, and violence. Jealousy is toxic. ... If jealousy is a problem in your relationship, not only do you risk your happiness, but you risk your safety. That's because it's really hard to tell when jealousy is just unhealthy, or when it's a red flag for dangerous behaviors, like control, and violence.

CAUSES OF JEALOUSY

v Feeling insure

v Lack of trust

v Poor self esteem

v Betrayal

v Sense of owner over a partner

v Desire for control

v   Fear

v Possessiveness

v Poor self-image

v Worrying about losing someone or something important

v Loneliness

v Communication issue

v Lack of understanding

v Past experience

HOW TO HANDLE JEALOUSY IN MARRIAGE OR RELATIONSHIP

v Talk about your fear

v Communicate more to someone you trust

v Think before you act

v Learn to over look  some things

v Have trust in your partner

v Listen more

v Laugh over some things that might make you feel jealous

v Don’t listen to side talk

v Always try to make a change

v Don’t bring your past to your present

v Consider the full story before you judge

v Appreciate your partner at all time

 

When encountering feelings of jealousy, your gut reaction may be to shove your feelings to the side or to rush through them because you feel uncomfortable. Unfortunately, doing that is a disservice to yourself. I recommend taking this slow and allowing yourself to process through all the things because every emotion—even jealousy—can be processed more healthily. Jealousy is not needed in an healthy relationship because jealous can make you act without thinking through the problem.

If you feel insecure in your marriage or relationship, talk about it and more on, never act before thinking.

 Jealousy can be a powerful and painful emotion, and this negative emotion can end almost any relationship. If left untreated, jealousy can create a permanent wedge between you and your partner, while negatively affecting future relationships. Work on your mind set and get jealousy out of your mind and trust in people around or your partner to have a better relationship