DISAGREEMENT IN MARRIAGE

Patience Andrew

A disagreement is the absence of consensus or consent. It can take the form of dissent or controversy. Couple often disagree over some issues they both feel should go there on way. When two parties have different opinion over a thing they both will disagree to come to a conclusion over that issue. In marriage, conflict occurs when the needs and desires of spouses diverge and are thus incompatible. Because spouses interact with each other regarding a number of issues important to their marriage over time, it is inevitable that conflict will occur to at least some degree in every marriage

What causes disagreement in marriage?

Disagreement is very common in marriage. Two people needs to sometime disagree to agree, it funny when you see two loving couple auguring over some issues that they can just sit down and look into. A lot of things cause disagreement in the home like who and who will do and sometime they disagree over how to raise their children which school, cloth and so many things.  

Lack of cooperation in the family, inability to spend enough time together, issues related to children and other families, lack of effective communication, and financial problems.

Disagreement is normal in marriage, it not a problem. It is an understanding for couples to augur over something. It becomes worse if both parties didn’t later come to an understanding by making an issue that turn to a problem.  In fact, not only is conflict in marriage inevitable, but it's also perfectly normal. It's a part of life. Why do you think wedding vows include phrases like “for better for worse,” “for richer for poorer,” “in sickness and health,” and “through thick and thin?. No matter what the issues might be just make sure both of you can handle it.

Common Problems in Marriage

  • Communication Issues. The most common complaint among married couples is lack of communication. ...
  • Ignoring Boundaries. ...
  • Lack of Sexual Intimacy. ...
  • Emotional or Sexual Infidelity. ...
  • Fighting About Money. ...
  • Selfishness. ...
  • Value Differences. ...
  • Different Life Stages.

This are just some common things that causes issues in marriage but it all started with a little disagreement that became a problem. Let’s look at some issues couples disagreed about in marriage.

·       Children welfare

·       Money

·       Sex time( some couple even make a time table)

·       Location changing

·       Family problem

·       House care budget

·       Job ( if the wife’s job is time taking)

·       Freedom of choice for the wife

We can go on and on and there will won’t be nonstop.

How do you deal with disagreement in a marriage?

1.    Have a good communication

2.    Listen to each first before you response to the matter

3.    Know yourself. ...

4.    Always give the benefit of the doubt. ...

5.    Distinguish between what can be overlooked and what needs to be addressed. ...

6.    Learn to see the bigger picture. ...

7.    Stick to one issue. ...

8.    Seek resolution promptly. ...

9.    Give grace, grace, and more grace

10.    Speak with respect to each other

Looking at all this point up there can make you avoid disagreement in your marriage.

 Best way to handle disagreement in marriage

1.    Create a welcoming environment for open communication. ...

2.    Maintain a calm and respectful demeanor during heated conversations. ...

3.    Watch out for arguments that stem from a need for control. ...

4.    Find some middle-ground. ...

5.    Agree to disagree and choose your battles

6.    Make fun about what you disagree about

7.    Talk to a trusted person for more input about your disagreement.

8.    Think alone about the matter

9.    Look for a quick solution to the matter

10. Talk calmly about the matter to each others

In conclusion

We cannot avoid disagreement in marriage since we are of different people from different home and background. In all we do in marriage, we always try to listen to each other before giving our own ideal or opinion or say about any matter that might arises in our marriage.

 

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