REASON WHY YOU SHOULD NOT GO BACK TO YOUR EX

 

There are some people you should let go in your life. People that make your day bad. If you are in a relationship that your sadness is more than your joy please leave and move on with your life and never go back to such a person because people hardly change. There are someone relationship you find yourself, the one that gives you peace, happiness and joy and something happen and you separated got separated and there is a chance of him or her calling you back please you can go back to such a person except if you have move on to another relationship. It may aptly apply here as a warning to stay clear of people and situations that hurt you in the past. Taking back your ex leaves you vulnerable to the same magnitude of hurt that you would have endured before. So you felt you constantly had to be doing the same things over and over, investing and reinvesting. There are times when a breakup can bring clarity about what you want in a partner, and coming back together is a good choice. However, in most circumstances, once you break up with a partner, your outcomes are better if you move on instead of cycling back to them.

 

1. You broke up for a reason. 

You are an adult. You did not come to the conclusion of ending a significant relationship with someone you care about out of nowhere. And if she is the one who ended it, neither did she. There were bigger issues for you two to finally cut the cord. Those issues do not disappear after a breakup. Don’t sacrifice the things you want from a partner for someone who is just going to disappoint you again.

2. Think about the reason you broke up. 

If you are even considering getting back together with your ex, the first thing you should do is ask yourself, “Why?” Not, why did we break up? But, why would I allow myself to repeat an unhealthy relationship? Two people can be great, and not be great together. If there were major issues in your relationship, or if you just did not vibe well together, you are still going to have the same problems. 

3. Time change nothing. 

It is easy to get caught up in the passing of time. Most relationships that continue to repeat the cycle (breakup, get back together, break up again). They do so because time allows them to forget about the things that went wrong and hold on to the things that went right. The problem with falling victim to time is that you will realize shortly after getting back together that you are still the same people with the same issues. And now all you have is time wasted. 

4. You will keep doing the same mistake. 

Honestly, ask yourself: how many people do you know who have broken up, gotten back together and now have thriving long term relationships? Now, ask yourself how many people you know who got back together with an ex and broke up again? The odds are against you. Have you heard the saying, “doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result is the definition of insanity”?

5. Don’t wast your dear time. 

You only have one life to live. It is up to you how you spend it. But, take a look back at your life and think about all the decisions you have made that you wish you could go back and change to make up for lost time. Do not let this be one of those decisions. You have goals and dreams; those can only be accomplished when you are taking steps forward. 

6. The sex is the same. 

News flash! Same person. You will get back together, and the honeymoon stage will last for 2.5 seconds before you both realize even the bedroom looks the same. If it was not working for you before, it’s not going to work for you now. Sex is the one thing you share with your significant other that you do not share with anyone else in your life. Make it a priority on your list.

7. Dependent on each other. 

You have to realize that you are holding onto companionship, not happiness. It takes time to learn to be happy on your own (and that is just about when you meet your perfect match) but the result is totally worth it. 

8. You already made it through. 

Hello, see that person in the mirror? Single! You are still breathing; your life is not over. You are already past the finish line, why turn around and have to do it all over again? The only person who loses when you go back to your ex is you. You lose time, opportunities, and open doors; all to end up back where you started. 

9. You were not good enough once.

Remember when she put you down in front of her friends? Or when she criticized you for having another beer? How about when she told you that you should probably spend more time in the gym? If she treats her friends better than she treated you, she does not value you for your worth. Don’t go thinking that if you drank less beer or lost some weight that things would change. She is still the